Abstract
Teen mental health challenges are on the rise, leaving many parents and caregivers wondering how to best support their children. Between academic and peer pressure and social media stress to shifting family dynamics, today’s teens are navigating unprecedented emotional hurdles. Without the right coping skills, these soon-to-be adults can feel overwhelmed and lost. In this blog, we explore the key issues driving the youth mental health crisis, how to differentiate between typical teenage ups and downs and more serious concerns, and practical strategies parents can use to foster open communication and build emotional resilience at home
Most importantly, we highlight the crucial role of professional therapy and counselling in helping families address underlying issues, strengthen relationships, and build personalized coping strategies tailored to their unique circumstances. With compassionate, evidence-based support from the therapists at Family-Therapy, families can overcome these challenges together and emerge more connected and resilient than ever.
Whether you’re a parent noticing changes in your teen or a caregiver seeking knowledgeable advice, this comprehensive guide offers insights, practical strategies parents can use to foster open communication and build emotional resilience at home.
Let’s face it—being a teenager is hard. The demands of school, extracurricular activities, and future planning (college, career paths) create intense pressure for teens. Teens may feel stressed about so many issues such as meeting expectations from parents, teachers, their peers or themselves. Today’s fast-paced, modern-day lifestyle only exacerbates the issue with the constant pressure and access to social media. Between school stress, social media pressures, and just trying to figure out who they are, it’s no surprise that mental health challenges such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem among teens are at an all-time high. In Canada, nearly 1 out of every 4 youths struggle with anxiety, depression, or substance use issues, and mental health-related hospital visits have skyrocketed by 89.1% in the past decade. For parents, having a teen struggle with a mental health issue can be both heartbreaking and confusing. Your once talkative, happy kid may suddenly seem distant, stressed, or overwhelmed teen. Maybe they’re struggling with school, spending more time alone, or acting out in ways that don’t make sense. Maybe they want to talk about their feelings but don’t know how or to whom.
That’s where Family-Therapy comes in. Our youth and teen therapists are here to help you recognize the warning signs, learn how to open up conversations, and figure out when and how to get the right support for you, your teen, and your family. Whether you’re a parent trying to support your teen or a teen looking for answers, find comfort in knowing you’re not alone. Mental health struggles don’t have to define anyone’s future. With the right help at the right time, healing is possible, and a brighter path forward is within reach.
Mental health is equally as important as your physical health, and learning how to talk about it is a game-changer. Parents, caregivers, and teens looking for advice will find this guide immensely helpful. Our goal is to aid you in navigating these challenges with more confidence and less stress. And if you’re wondering how teen or family counselling might provide additional support during difficult conversations, we’ll explore those options too. Keep reading to learn more.
Understanding the Adolescent Mental Health Crisis
Teenagers today are dealing with more pressure than ever before, and it’s taking a serious toll on their mental health. Between school stress, social media comparison, and an increasing sense of uncertainty about the future, many teens are feeling overwhelmed. But what’s really behind this crisis? And why does it seem like more young people are struggling now than in previous generations?
This section breaks down the key factors driving the rise in teen mental health issues, from biological changes in the brain to the impact of modern stressors like academic pressure and social media.
The Alarming Rise in Teen Mental Health Challenges
If it seems like more teens are struggling with anxiety and depression, it’s because they are. Research shows that 25% of Canadian youth experience significant mental health challenges. Even more concerning, emergency department visits for youth mental health issues have increased by 89.1% in the past decade, with anxiety and mood disorders being the leading causes. (Maria Chiu, 2020)
And it’s not just anxiety and depression—young people aged 15 to 24 are more likely to experience mental illness and/or substance use disorders than any other age group, often using alcohol or cannabis as a way to cope. (Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, 2025)
Some of the biggest stressors contributing to this crisis include:
🔹 Academic Pressure: 39% of Ontario high school students indicate a moderate-to-serious level of psychological distress. (Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, 2025) Teens today are juggling high expectations, intense workloads, and pressure to plan for their future before they are equipped and mature enough to make the right choices for higher studies and professional careers.
🔹 Social Media and Digital Overload: The average Canadian teen now spends 7.8 hours a day on digital screens, with studies showing a strong correlation between high screen time and increased depression symptoms. Social media can be a great way to connect, inform, and entertain. On the flip side, it also fuels comparison culture, cyberbullying, and unrealistic beauty or success standards that can deeply impact self-esteem. (Dr. Scott T. Leatherdale, Dr. R. Ahmed, 2011)
🔹 Emotional and Brain Development: The teen brain is still under construction! Adolescents go through major neurological changes, especially in the prefrontal cortex, which controls decision making, impulse regulation, and emotional management. This explains why teens sometimes make risky choices or struggle to regulate emotions—it’s not just “teen drama,” it’s biology! (Stanford Medicine, 2025)
🔹 Substance Use and Self-Medication: Mental health and substance use often go hand in hand. Many teens turn to alcohol, cannabis, or other substances to cope with anxiety, depression, or stress. Early substance use can not only worsen mental health symptoms but also increase the risk of long-term dependence and addiction. Recognizing the signs and addressing both issues together is key to helping teens build healthier coping strategies and a stronger future.
🔹 Social and Family Pressures: Whether it’s family expectations, peer relationships, identity struggles, or bullying, teens today face a unique set of social challenges. For marginalized groups, these mental health challenges can be even more intense Studies show that LGBTQ+ youth face approximately 14 times the risk of suicide and substance abuse than their heterosexual peers. (CMHA Ontario, 2025)
So, How Can We Help Our Teens?
Understanding these challenges is the first step toward helping teens navigate them. Early intervention makes a huge difference in their well-being. The next section will help parents and caregivers recognize the key warning signs of anxiety, depression, and substance use in teens— because recognizing the signs early is essential to providing the right support at the right time.
Identifying the Warning Signs of Mental Health Challenges
One of the biggest challenges of parenting is knowing when your teenage child needs help versus space. Telling the difference between normal teen moodiness and more serious mental health struggles isn’t always easy. While emotional ups and downs are a natural part of adolescence (thanks, hormones!), how do you know when it’s something more serious? Here are key signs to watch for that might indicate your teen needs extra support.
Teen Anxiety: When Worry Becomes Overwhelming
Feeling nervous from time to time is completely normal—and can even be beneficial. Remember those pre-test jitter or the butterflies before a first date? Those nerves can boost focus and performance. But when anxiety becomes overwhelming and starts interfering with daily life, it’s a different story—one that requires attention and support.
Watch for these signs:
- Constant worrying that seems impossible to shut off
- Avoiding social situations or activities they used to enjoy
- Trouble sleeping, frequent headaches, or mysterious stomach aches
- Difficulty focusing, falling grades, or school avoidance
- Getting overwhelmed or irritable over seemingly small things
Pay attention to the less obvious signs that your teen may be experiencing. Some anxious teens become perfectionists or people-pleasers, striving to control their environment to manage their inner anxiety. While this might seem like high-achieving behaviour, it can be a sign that they’re struggling beneath the surface.
For more information regarding teen anxiety, especially in relation to school stresses, check out our blog: Navigating Teen Anxiety: Effective Strategies for a Smooth Transition Back to School.
Mood Swings: Normal Teen Emotions vs. Signs of Depression
Teen emotions can be intense (one minute they’re laughing, the next they’re slamming doors), but depression looks different from typical mood swings. Be concerned if you notice:
- Sadness, irritability, or emptiness that hangs around for over two weeks
- Losing interest in activities or friends they used to love
- Noticeable changes in eating or sleeping patterns
- Constant tiredness or lack of motivation
- Making comments about feeling worthless or hopeless
- Talk of self-harm or suicide (which always warrants immediate attention)
Remember that teen depression often shows up as irritability or angry rather than sadness, so grumpy behaviour that lasts for more than two weeks might be a cry for help. Scolding and punishing your teenager for an outburst or moodiness will send them hiding in their bedrooms instead of coming to you for help.
Teen Substance Use: Early Signs of a Growing Problem
While we do not condone underage drinking or illicit drug use, we are aware that many teens experiment with illicit drugs or alcohol. Substance use and abuse can become an unhealthy way to cope with emotional pain, anxiety, depression, or used to numb out and ignore real problems, it can quickly lead to serious issues. Be on the lookout for:
- Sudden and dramatic changes in their friend groups, especially increased secrecy
- Dropping grades or disciplinary issues at school
- Physical signs like bloodshot eyes, slurred speech, or weight changes
- Loss of interest in activities they once loved
- Mood swings, aggression, or getting super defensive when questioned
- Finding suspicious items in their room or missing money
If you’re noticing these patterns, approaching the conversation with concern rather than accusation and blame can make all the difference in how your teen responds to you.
Why Teens Struggle to Talk About Their Feelings
Ever asked your teen what’s wrong and gotten the classic eye-roll and “nothing” response? Even when they’re having a hard time, most teens find it incredibly difficult to open up and express their feelings or problems. Here’s why—and what you can do about it.
- The Mental Health Stigma Is Real
Even with all the progress we’ve made, many teens still worry they’ll be judged for struggling:
- “If I admit I’m anxious all the time, my parents will think I’m weak.”
- “Everyone else seems to have it together. What’s wrong with me?”
What helps: Normalize and create a home environment where discussing mental health issues at home is OK and encouraged. Share age-appropriate stories about times you’ve felt overwhelmed or anxious and how you handled it. Speak up and share your own feelings openly such as “I had a stressful day at work, so I took a walk to clear my mind.” Start validating your partner’s and your children’s emotions and labelling emotions. Let them know, it’s okay to feel sad sometimes. Make it clear that mental health is just as important as physical health—we all need support sometimes!
- The Words Just Don’t Come Easy
Your teen’s brain is tumultuous, to say the least! The parts responsible for emotional regulation and self-awareness are works in progress, making it genuinely hard for teens to identify and express complex feelings.
What helps: Give them language to work with. Instead of asking “What’s wrong?” (which can feel overwhelming), try more specific check-ins: “You seem quieter than usual—is something on your mind?” or “That project seemed stressful—how are you feeling about it now?” Discuss stress, anxiety, or peer pressure in ways that feels relevant to your teen.
- Social Media Makes Everything Complicated
When everyone else is posting highlight reels, admitting you’re struggling feels like announcing that you’re the only one failing at life.
What helps: Have honest conversations on a regular basis about the illusions created on social media versus reality. Share examples of how even you as an adult can feel “less than” or feel like you are “missing out” when scrolling through the glamour shown on Instagram. Remind them that true friends won’t judge them for having hard times. In fact, emphasize that opening up often strengthens relationships.
- They’re Trying to Protect You
Many teens stay silent because they don’t want to worry their parents or fear causing an overreaction.
What helps: Manage your responses carefully. Even if you’re concerned, avoid panic or immediate problem-solving. Try: “I appreciate you telling me this. Let’s figure out together what might help.” Let your teens know that therapy or counseling is always an option, just like going to a doctor for physical health and have open discussions about therapy. Avoid dismissive phrases like “Just get over it” or “Stop worrying so much.”
When your teen sees that any family member can opens up about their problems or challenges and you are there to listen without interrupting or rushing to “fix” the problem, they are more likely to come to you for help. When teens see that sharing won’t lead to drama or punishment, they’ll be more likely to open up.
Want to deepen your understanding of parent-child/teen communication and get help with challenging issues? Explore our blog: Are You Misunderstanding Your Child or Teen? for additional insights on recognizing communication gaps and building stronger connections with your children and teens.
Supporting Your Teen’s Mental Health: Practical Strategies That Work
Create an environment where your teen feels supported while giving them practical tools to manage emotions. It’s the proven, winning combination. Here’s how to make it happen:
- Be the Listener They Need
The foundation of supporting your teen starts with genuine connection:
- Put your phone down and give them your full attention.
- Ask open questions, then really listen.
- Validate their feelings: “That sounds really stressful. I can see why you’d be upset.”
- Remember: sometimes they need a sounding board, not solutions.
- Let family members know they can talk anytime and no topic is off-limits.
- Help Them Express and Manage Emotions
Many teens struggle to identify what they’re feeling and what to do about it:
🧠 Build Their Emotional Vocabulary – Move beyond “fine” or “whatever” with check-ins like: “On a scale of 1-10, how’s your stress level today?” Use appropriate language to discuss emotions, feeling and mental health issues instead of being vague or using slang.
🎨 Offer Different Outlets – Some teens express themselves better through art, music, physical activity, or even texting rather than face-to-face talks. Encourage journaling, going for a run, doing yoga or creative outlets like art and music to help manage their emotions or release stress. Some feelings are hard to put into words. Art therapy allows people to express emotions through drawing, painting, or sculpting. Engaging in creative activities like colouring or doodling can activate the relaxation response, which lowers stress and anxiety levels.
- Teach Simple Calming Techniques
Many children and teens can learn to quickly manage their emotions and reduce stress through breathing and grounding techniques.
- The 4-7-8 breathing method works great for anxious moments.
- Teach your kids the 90-second pause rule which is stop before reacting to strong emotions.
- Looking around the room and describing what you see can help bring you into a calmer place
- Check out quick and free guided meditations from apps like Headspace, OAK or Calm.
- Fidget toys and sensory tools can be great for reducing stress and improving focus. We all remember getting and squeezing stress ball at one point in time.
- Encourage Healthy Thought Patterns
Guide them to replace all-or-nothing thinking with more balanced perspectives:
- “I messed up this presentation” instead of “I’m terrible at everything”.
- “This friendship is going through a rough patch” instead of “Nobody will ever like me”.
- “I’m struggling with this math concept” instead of “I’m just not smart enough”.
- “I made a mistake at the game today” instead of “I’m the worst player on the team”.
These reframes acknowledge real challenges while avoiding the catastrophic thinking that can fuel anxiety and depression.
- Create Stability Through Routines
Structure provides security during emotionally turbulent times and some teens crave routine and structure:
🛌 Prioritize Sleep – Nothing wrecks teen mental health faster than sleep deprivation. Encourage consistent sleep schedules and screen-free wind-down time.
🥦 Mind the Body-Brain Connection – Small nutrition habits make a difference:
- Brain-boosting foods like nuts, dark chocolate, green tea, dark leafy greens, and berries
- Staying hydrated and watching caffeine intake
- Daily movement (even as little as 15 minutes helps!)
- Find the Right Balance
Teens need both boundaries and freedom to develop emotional resilience:
- Set clear expectations around safety issues.
- At the same time, offer flexibility in how they express themselves through language and by how the dress.
- Focus on major concerns and let the small stuff go.
- Let your children know you are always there for them even when they are in trouble
- Create a secret phrase they can text you if they need you to pick them up immediately or if they feel unsafe when out with friends
- As they mature let them have input on rules that affect them.
- Lead By Example
Your teen is watching how you handle stress and emotions:
- Manage your own feelings in healthy ways: “I’m feeling frustrated right now, so I’m taking a quick walk to clear my head.” Or “I had a challenging day at work, so I am going to have some quiet time to myself for 20 minutes.”
- Admit when you make mistakes.
- Show and talk about your emotions.
- Show them it’s okay to ask for help when needed and there is no shame in saying you are sad, depressed or worried.
- Practical Tools for School and Social Stress
📚 Break Down Overwhelming Assignments – Help them divide large projects into smaller, manageable steps using planners or apps. Teach your children effective study skills, such as setting priorities, using time blocks, and taking regular breaks to stay focused and reduce stress. If your child is struggling with school planning, consider enrolling them in courses that teach study skills, time management, and organization. These programs can help them develop effective learning strategies, build confidence, and improve their academic performance. Make sure to rule out any learning disabilities.
🤝 Navigate Social Challenges – Remind them that quality friendships matter more than popularity. Having good friends can make a huge difference in school and throughout life. Teach them how to be a good friend—by showing kindness, listening, and being reliable—and help them recognize when it’s time to step away from unhealthy friendships.
🚀 Normalize Setbacks – Share your own age-appropriate struggles and how you overcame them, showing that challenges are a normal part of life. Celebrate both successes and struggles, as it takes courage to keep trying. Teach your child problem-solving skills—helping them face difficulties with resilience rather than avoidance or giving up. Share stories of famous people who faced struggles before achieving success, such as Albert Einstein. By learning about real-life examples, they’ll see that perseverance and resilience are key to success. Even Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team before he became an NBA legend!
Remember, supporting your teen isn’t about having all the answers or fixing their problems. It’s about creating a safe space and supporting them while helping them build skills to navigate everyday challenges. Some days will feel like progress, others won’t. That’s normal. Your consistent support and guidance as they practice these emotional tools is what matters most in helping them develop resilience that will serve them throughout life.
If you need a hand building good habits and setting the right example for your teen, try family counselling with one of our professional therapists. Our child and youth therapists can build custom support strategies for your family and get to the bottom of your child’s ongoing emotional issues.
Understanding and Addressing Substance Use in Teens
Natural teenage curiosity and the need to push boundaries can lead to the exploration of substance uses whether its drugs or alcohol. Substance use among teens can also be a response to stress, emotional struggles, or peer pressure. While experimentation can be a normal part of adolescence, ongoing use and abuse can indicate deeper issues that require attention. Here’s how to recognize the root causes, approach the conversation with care, and seek the right support.
Why Teens Turn to Substance Use
Teens may experiment with substances for different reasons, but the most common include:
- Coping with Stress and Emotional Pain – Anxiety, depression, trauma, or family conflict can drive teens to use substances as a form of self-medication. Some teens use substances to feel more outgoing or confident in social situations.
- Peer Pressure and Social Influence – Fear of being judged or left out or wanting to fit in and be accepted can lead teens to experiment, even if they aren’t initially interested.
- Curiosity and Risk-Taking – The adolescent brain is wired for exploration, making some teens more likely to experiment without considering long-term consequences.
- Academic or Performance Pressure – Some teens turn to stimulants or other substances to stay awake, focus better, or manage school-related stress. Other teens may use to coping with academic pressure or boredom at school because they have tuned out.
- Family or Environmental Factors – Exposure to substance use at home, lack of parental involvement or supervision, and easy access to substances can increase risk.
- Media & Pop Culture – Exposure to movies, music, and social media glamorizing drug and alcohol use can influence teens to experiment.
Recognizing these underlying factors can help you address the issue with more empathy and less judgment.
How to Talk to Your Teen About Substance Use
Starting the conversation about drug use and abuse can feel daunting, but the goal is to create a space where your teen feels heard rather than punished. Talk early and often about drug use and abuse.
✅ Stay Calm and Avoid Judgment – Approach the conversation with curiosity and open-ended questions, avoid accusations. Instead of “Are you using drugs?” try, “What have you heard about drugs and alcohol at school?” or “How do you feel about peer pressure?” Teach them to say “no” with confidence and handle peer pressure.
✅ Listen More Than You Speak – Give your teen space to share their thoughts and experiences. Avoid interrupting or lecturing. Encourage non-judgmental conversations where your teen feels safe to share.
✅ Be Clear About Your Concerns and Expectations – Express love and concern rather than disappointment. “I want to make sure you’re safe. Can we talk about what’s going on?” Let them know they can count on you if they call you to help get them out of an unsafe situation.
✅ Educate Without Scare Tactics – Get educated yourself by reading up the latest information about drug use and abuse. Attend your child’s and teens educational sessions for parents about drug use and abuse in your community. Share factual information about the risks of substance use but focus on open discussion rather than fear. Discuss how addiction happens gradually, not overnight and what are the signs that someone might have an addiction issue.
✅ Offer Support and Solutions – Be supportive, not just disciplinary—let them know they can come to you for help. If your teen is struggling, ask how you can help. Offer alternatives like therapy or healthier coping mechanisms such as sports, artistic outlets, clubs, or volunteer work. Offer to book an appointment with their doctor, a therapist, or support group where they can discuss their concerns and learn positive healthy ways to cope with anxiety and stress. Stress that you are there to support them.
Your teen may not open up right away, but setting a foundation for honest conversations can make a big difference over time.
How Family Therapy Supports Families and Teens Through Mental Health Challenges
When a teen struggles with their mental health, the whole family feels it. Parents often worry about saying the wrong thing, while teens might feel like nobody truly gets what they’re going through and they feel misunderstood or alone. This disconnect can leave everyone feeling stuck and frustrated—but it doesn’t have to stay that way – with open communication and support, families can work through it together.
At Family Therapy in Ottawa, we help families navigate challenges using evidence-based approaches that foster connection, understanding, and change:
- Getting to the heart of what’s happening through friendly and open conversations and activities that help uncover what’s truly troubling your teen whether it’s social media pressure, friendship struggles, family dynamics, academic struggles or something deeper.
- Creating Safe and Open Communication with simple techniques like “speaker-listener” exercises where everyone gets a chance to be heard without interruption. Helping parents learn to truly listen to their teens and offer support. Our therapists are there to stop conflict in session and mediate open honest conversations about tough topics.
- Teaching practical coping skills Your teen will learn effective strategies they can use daily, such as breathing techniques for anxiety, thought-challenging worksheets for negative thinking, mindfulness exercises for stress, and personalized calm-down plans for overwhelming moments. You and your teen can explore what situations or emotions may lead to substance use and how to manage these situations.
- Bringing the family closer through fun but meaningful activities that build understanding and help everyone see each other’s perspective.
- Giving parents a toolkit of responses that work better than lectures—like how to validate feelings without agreeing with behaviours, setting boundaries that stick, what are the warning signs their teen is struggling, and turning conflicts into opportunities for connection. Parents can learn that addictions are not a choice but a complex issue that requires patience and support while they encourage their teen to take responsibility. Parents may need to examine their own alcohol and drug use.
Our experienced therapists use proven approaches like CBT to change unhelpful thought patterns, DBT skills for handling big emotions, and Internal Family Systems techniques that improve how everyone interacts with each other.
Reaching Out for Help
The challenges teens face today are real—but so are the solutions. We’ve explored some of the reasons behind youth mental health struggles, how to recognize warning signs, and, most importantly, how parents can provide support their teens. With early intervention and professional guidance from qualified social workers and psychotherapists, teens can develop healthy coping skills, build resilience, and thrive.
At Family-Therapy in Ottawa, we believe that families who face challenges together will grow stronger together. Our compassionate therapists are here to help your teen and your family develop the tools and strategies you need to move forward with confidence and connection.
💬 Ready to learn more about youth mental health crises and solutions? Reach out today to schedule a confidential consultation and explore how Family-Therapy can help your teen and your family thrive. Family-Therapy, we’re here to listen.
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