We know having a satisfying sexual and intimate relationship is an important part of a loving relationship for couples. But why does our sex life fizzle out? How much sex is enough sex? How often should a couple be intimate in a close and loving partnership? Does it matter?
People differ in the degree of sexual desire they experience. There is no set standard for sexual desire, and sexual desire differs not only from person to person but also within the same person over her or his lifespan. Sexual desire can be low for a variety of reasons. Sometimes you’re overstressed and tired, you might be in the middle of raising your family, you may be dissatisfied with your partner, you might be entering perimenopause, or there may be physical or medical reasons why your sexual desire is low.
A reduced sex drive isn’t an inevitable part of aging. Though a reduced sex drive is something many men and women do experience as they get older.
Relationship problems can be the main reason in why you and your partner are not having an intimate relationship.
The absences of sex or very little sex can be the result of:
• poor emotional connection between you and your partner
• being in a long-term relationship and becoming overfamiliar with your partner
• loss of sexual attraction
• unresolved conflict and frequent arguments
• poor communication
• difficulty trusting each other
• physical sexual problems
What can you do?
It’s important for you to be honest with yourself and our partner about your relationship. How much time and energy are you putting into your relationship? What is getting in the way of spending tie with each other? Yes, you can’t forget or ignore your children but are you making time for each other – do you schedule date time for just the two of you?
If you’re not happy with your sexual relationship and it’s too difficult to discuss on your own see one of our therapists at Family-therapy to talk about your relationship and your hopes and dreams.
We’re here to listen.