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Are you looking for support outside of therapy? Can online discussions between peers or a support group replace therapy with a trained professional?

 

What is a support group?

 

Support groups are helpful for when you must cope with what you cannot change. Support groups are best for handling issues, situations, and challenges that cannot be changed. You cannot change the fact that you have a child with a life-threatening illness or that you’re going through a divorce or that you’ve lost a loved one or you have a family member who is struggling with an addiction. What you can change, through your participation in a support group, is how well you cope with these struggles.

 

Support groups bring together people who are going through or have gone through similar experiences. Whether they are online discussion groups or in person groups they can be a helpful way for you to get support and reduce the feeling of isolation when you are facing a challenging experience. Online discussion groups or in person Support groups can address any issue ranging from dealing with a major health challenge, raising children, coping with an addiction or even gender or sexual orientation issues.

What is Therapy?

Psychotherapy or therapy refers to a range of treatments that can help with mental health problems, emotional challenges, and some psychiatric disorders. It aims to enable you to better understand your feelings. A psychotherapist may be a psychologist, a marriage and family therapist, a social worker, or a psychotherapist. Each therapist should be registered with their respective provincial college.

Individual therapy is focused solely on you and looks at how you can change. Couples therapy looks at your interactions as couple and can be used as a marriage tune up, helping the two of you cope with your differences, and provide support after an affair.

When to use an Online or in person Support group versus Psychotherapy?

Each one has its place in helping you through challenging situations.

There are big differences between a peer support group and a trained psychotherapist

  • Training – your therapist should have a Master degree in psychotherapy, psychology, counselling, or social worker
  • Therapist dedicated to only you
  • Unbiased information
  • Accountability for both you and your therapist

 

Psychotherapy

 Psychotherapy has the benefit of giving you, your partner or your child someone to talk to. It can create a new way of looking at difficult problems, and help you move towards a solution. Therapy helps you get a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values, and can help you develop skills for improving your relationships with others. In order for psychotherapy to work you need to be engaged and participate in the process. Therapy is not a passive process. You need to talk in session, and you might need to do homework or actives to help you overcome your challenges.

People go for psychotherapy when they are facing challenges such as depression, anxiety, phobias, problems raising their children or couples’ issues. Some therapists work with people after they have been involved in a motor vehicle accident and have developed phobias to driving.

There are a number of effective types of psychotherapy. Some more well known therapy techniques are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples. Your therapist may use a combination of many different techniques and therapy modalities to find what best works for you.

 

Peer Support Group or Online Support Groups

 

A peer support group may be led by a layperson who does not have any specialized training. A support group can be a place to learn and hear about the issue you are struggling with, but it doesn’t replace the intense work you need to do to resolve your issues. A peer support group can also help you with living with medical issues or even provide guidance and support for life’s challenges such as having twins or a special needs child.

The goal of a support group is to help you cope. Support groups are for when you realize your usual coping skills are not enough to help you through a current difficulty in your life and that you need more support than your friends and family can provide. Having a supportive environment in which to talk about what you’re going through can greatly increase your chances of having a better outcome than someone who doesn’t receive any support. Some people join online or in person support groups but do not really participate and that’s OK. Sometimes you may just want to listen to others.

When you are on social media you do not always know if each person has your best interest at heart or if they are unbiased. I’ve seen some mean parent bashing happening or even suggestions it’s time to leave your spouse when someone looks for support or asks questions on social media. This isn’t therapy.

 Benefits of a Peer Support Group

There are many peer support groups online to help people go through similar situations. There are many benefits to speaking with others going through a similar experience.

  • reduces social isolation
  • support from others in a similar situation
  • provides information and education
  • Staying motivated to manage chronic conditions
  • Gaining a sense of empowerment, control or hope
  • Improving understanding of a disease and your own experience with it
  • Getting practical feedback about treatment options
  • Learning about health, economic or social resources
  • may develop friendships
  • flexibility not mandated to attend every week – you can start and stop – you can silently observe

 

Support groups will hopefully also provide you with information, tips or other resources. In a support group, you may develop friendships and relationships outside of the group. A support group does not mandate you attend weekly or make some form of commitment.

 

When would you recommend someone join an online support group and share their own experiences online?

Online and Peer Support groups can be helpful

  • if you are in a very isolated community
  • you’re not quite ready to take the leap into individual therapy
  • you can’t get out of your home due to illness or mobility issues
  • not ready to share your struggles in person

 

It’s important to ask question before joining a support group

  • Is the group designed for people with a specific medical condition or certain stage of a disease?
  • Is there a facilitator or moderator?
  • Has the facilitator undergone training?
  • Is a mental health expert involved with the group?
  • What are the guidelines for confidentiality?
  • Are there established ground rules for group participation?
  • What is a typical meeting like?
  • Is it free, and if not, what are the fees?

 

Red flags that might indicate a problematic support group include:

  • Promises of a sure cure for your disease or condition
  • High fees to attend the group
  • Pressure to purchase products or services

 

What are the dangers of only relying on social media or peer support groups to help you work through an issue?

There is no accountability if it is just an online group created by individuals who are not registered psychotherapists or who are not affiliated with a reputable organization or a group.

Support groups are just that – support and if things go very wrong in your life, your group will have no idea why you disappeared.

Support groups may not be led by a trained and certified psychotherapist.

There are many support groups, and some may be biased more towards one point of view.

Again, a support group isn’t therapy.

You may feel you are not getting enough empathy or support from your support group because the membership can vary every time you go on line.

If you are easily impacted by the emotions of others I would say online support groups might not be the right thing for you.

  • The group may turn into a big complaining sessions if it’s not well monitored
  • Emotional entanglement, group tension or interpersonal conflicts
  • Inappropriate or unsound medical advice
  • Comparisons of whose condition or experience is worse

 

Do you recommend people post about their own experiences online?

Sharing your experiences does make you feel connected to others. Unfortunately, there is no guarantee of confidentiality on social media or a public or even private support group that happens online.  Members of all support groups are not supposed to shared details outside of the group.

When online it is important that you create a profile, which will not give away your identity. You may also wish to change some of the details of your experiences such as places or dates.

If you are going to a in person or community support group talk with the facilitatory about confidentiality. Confidentiality and the importance of privacy should be discussed prior to you joining a group.

 

 

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